Small Things All Highly Sexual Couples Have

Introduction

If you are looking to increase the amount of times you have sex in a month, week, or even day, it is important to look at what people who have sex often are doing regularly! Surprisingly, it can be very small things that lead to a happier and more fulfilling sex life. Here, we detail important mindsets and habits that all highly sexual couples have or do every day to keep their sex life exciting.

Small Moments

Couples who have a lot of sex are often looking for any opportunity to have sex. This isn’t to say that they are having sex in all their free time, but rather that they aren’t looking for the perfect time to have sex.

Waiting until the kids move out, until all the work is done, until the house is clean, etc. can mean that you wait for a long period of time before having sex. Highly sexual couples are not looking for perfect moments, they are finding time to fit sex into their daily routines. When the kids are asleep, after an hour of work, or when they feel confident in the progress of the household chores.

Quickies

In addition to taking advantage of small moments, highly sexual couples are not opposed to what we refer to as a “quickie.” Quickies can be short, sweet, or sensual. Sex doesn’t always need to be 20 minutes or an hour, it can be a small amount of time with still pleasing both parties and having fun!

Confidence

Highly sexual couples are confident, not only in each other but also in themselves. They embrace what their body looks like, and feels like. They know how to talk to their partner and communicate confidently.

Trust

Couples who have healthy amounts of sex are 100% trusting of each other. They are never second guessing their partners actions, and all fights are resolved quickly with both parties feeling like they met their needs.

If you or your partner has trust issues, the sex can be rare. This is mainly due to the stress that suspicion and jealousy causes, as well as the emotional detachment.

Connection

Highly sexual couples have a strong connection, and that connection is often supplemented or created through their sexual experiences with each other. All of these couples are confident that their connection will last and will remain healthy.

Additionally, if you’re looking to rekindle a connection or encourage your partner to be more connected with you on an emotional level, sex is often the answer for these couples!

Conclusion

Sexual couples are just healthy relationships. It’s as simple as that- two people who are willing to put work into their relationship as well as their time in the bedroom. If you want to become more sexual with your partner, or have sex more often, that starts outside of your sex life.

The more you are encouraging healthy relationship habits in your day to day lives, the more you and your partner will experience positive sex experiences, as well as encourage sex more often.

How to Prepare for Anal Sex

Introduction

There are plenty of things you need to research before starting anything new with your partner while having sex. This can be seriously off putting, and can make it so you stick to the same sexual routines simply out of laziness.

However, if you’re wanting to learn how to prepare for anal sex because it’s something you or your partner have wanted to try for a while, look no further. There is no need for laziness, because we have it all detailed for you here!

Step One: Preparation!

The first step to getting ready for anal sex experiences in your future is to test it out for yourself. You can start with finger play, or even purchase an anal toy that you can start to experiment with in the safety of your own space.

Starting with yourself and a toy is a great way to get to know what you do and do not like about anal sex, and is especially important because you want to be able to communicate that to your partner.

Step Two: Day Of

When you know you’re going to be trying anal sex for the first time, be sure to avoid smelling lotions or soaps as those can irritate your anus. Additionally, if you’re worried about leftover mess from going to the bathroom, try giving yourself a warm water enema a few hours prior to trying anal sex. Make sure that you let all of the water absorb into your body before doing anal sex, or else it might surprisingly come out during intercourse!

Step Three: Ease In

It’s always a necessary reminder when trying something new: make sure that you are communicating and consenting throughout the entire process of trying anal for the first time. If you are having second thoughts, communicate them and wait until you are 100% confident to try again.

Additionally, don’t try anything crazy on your first go. It’s important to ease into anal sex, because it can be painful at first. Don’t try any of the things you’ve seen in porn until you are used to the simple anal sex that you do during the first attempt.

Step Four: Forget About it

Make sure that you aren’t being influenced by the popular media or your other friends/family in the realm of anal sex. If you know that you enjoy it, who cares what anyone thinks? It’s for you and your partner to decide how to behave in the bedroom, and no one should be able to influence that for you anyway.

Conclusion

Overall, make sure that you’re communicating and preparing so that your anal sex experience is the best it can be for both parties involved. While it can be fun to try new things in your sex life, be sure that everyone involved is happy with the actions being done as well as what they are getting out of it.

How to Increase your Sex Drive

Introduction

Are you just not feeling it in the bedroom lately? It is really common for both men and women to experience rises and lows in their sex drive, but sometimes it can get in the way of the things your partner wants or the things that you want for your relationship in the bedroom.

That being said, there can be many causes for long term low libidos: medication, hormonal influxes, stress levels, alcohol and the state of the relationship with your partner. All of things can affect your sex life, but none of them should control it! To take back control, continue reading to find out how you can increase your libido.

Prescriptions

One of the very first things to look at is the side effects of any of the medications you’re on. This includes birth control, which can be known to decrease libido. If you or your partner are taking any prescriptions consistently that have a side effect of decreased libido, it might be time to go visit your doctor.

Working Out

It can be really important that you and your partner are both feeling confident in the bedroom. This can’t be done if your self esteem is really low. Working out can improve self esteem and confidence in the bedroom, and in your daily life. Working out can be a great step in increasing your sex drive, and can get a jump start on the sweat!

Relaxing – Without Alcohol

If you are a very busy person, take a few days to yourself away from the stress. Stress can cause your libido to linger, and it can take a toll on not only your relationship, but the other people in your life.

That being said, if you are putting all your relaxing time into drinking, you might have an issue with libido stemming from your relaxation. If you are an avid drinker, you can be causing your sex drive to dwindle and eventually simmer out. Try to cut back on alcohol, and you might see an increase in your sex drive!

Try Something New

One of the biggest things for couples who start to lose their sex drives is that they have been having the same sex for a long period of time. This can be harmful to a relationship, and should be noted immediately.

If you notice you or your partner are falling into a habitual routine when it comes to sex, try something new! Bring in new toys, new positions, or new people to your bedroom and let that inspire you to have sex more often.

Conclusion

If you’re struggling to keep yourself interested in sex, try to investigate it. If you look into all the things listed above, the next step is to visit a doctor or sex therapist. Think about the possibility of bringing your partner to your appointment, so you can form a bond with them around the decreased libido you are experiencing. Ask them to help you out, and know that all will be well!