Are you just not feeling it in the bedroom
lately? It is really common for both men and women to experience rises and lows
in their sex drive, but sometimes it can get in the way of the things your
partner wants or the things that you want for your relationship in the bedroom.
That being said, there can be many causes for
long term low libidos: medication, hormonal influxes, stress levels, alcohol
and the state of the relationship with your partner. All of things can affect
your sex life, but none of them should control it! To take back control,
continue reading to find out how you can increase your libido.
One of the very first things to look at is the
side effects of any of the medications you’re on. This includes birth control,
which can be known to decrease libido. If you or your partner are taking any
prescriptions consistently that have a side effect of decreased libido, it
might be time to go visit your doctor.
It can be really important that you and your
partner are both feeling confident in the bedroom. This can’t be done if your
self esteem is really low. Working out can improve self esteem and confidence
in the bedroom, and in your daily life. Working out can be a great step in
increasing your sex drive, and can get a jump start on the sweat!
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If you are a very busy person, take a few days
to yourself away from the stress. Stress can cause your libido to linger, and
it can take a toll on not only your relationship, but the other people in your
That being said, if you are putting all your
relaxing time into drinking, you might have an issue with libido stemming from
your relaxation. If you are an avid drinker, you can be causing your sex drive
to dwindle and eventually simmer out. Try to cut back on alcohol, and you might
see an increase in your sex drive!
One of the biggest things for couples who
start to lose their sex drives is that they have been having the same sex for a
long period of time. This can be harmful to a relationship, and should be noted
If you notice you or your partner are falling
into a habitual routine when it comes to sex, try something new! Bring in new
toys, new positions, or new people to your bedroom and let that inspire you to
have sex more often.
If you’re struggling to keep yourself
interested in sex, try to investigate it. If you look into all the things
listed above, the next step is to visit a doctor or sex therapist. Think about
the possibility of bringing your partner to your appointment, so you can form a
bond with them around the decreased libido you are experiencing. Ask them to
help you out, and know that all will be well!