How to Prepare for Anal Sex


There are plenty of things you need to research before starting anything new with your partner while having sex. This can be seriously off putting, and can make it so you stick to the same sexual routines simply out of laziness.

However, if you’re wanting to learn how to prepare for anal sex because it’s something you or your partner have wanted to try for a while, look no further. There is no need for laziness, because we have it all detailed for you here!

Step One: Preparation!

The first step to getting ready for anal sex experiences in your future is to test it out for yourself. You can start with finger play, or even purchase an anal toy that you can start to experiment with in the safety of your own space.

Starting with yourself and a toy is a great way to get to know what you do and do not like about anal sex, and is especially important because you want to be able to communicate that to your partner.

Step Two: Day Of

When you know you’re going to be trying anal sex for the first time, be sure to avoid smelling lotions or soaps as those can irritate your anus. Additionally, if you’re worried about leftover mess from going to the bathroom, try giving yourself a warm water enema a few hours prior to trying anal sex. Make sure that you let all of the water absorb into your body before doing anal sex, or else it might surprisingly come out during intercourse!

Step Three: Ease In

It’s always a necessary reminder when trying something new: make sure that you are communicating and consenting throughout the entire process of trying anal for the first time. If you are having second thoughts, communicate them and wait until you are 100% confident to try again.

Additionally, don’t try anything crazy on your first go. It’s important to ease into anal sex, because it can be painful at first. Don’t try any of the things you’ve seen in porn until you are used to the simple anal sex that you do during the first attempt.

Step Four: Forget About it

Make sure that you aren’t being influenced by the popular media or your other friends/family in the realm of anal sex. If you know that you enjoy it, who cares what anyone thinks? It’s for you and your partner to decide how to behave in the bedroom, and no one should be able to influence that for you anyway.


Overall, make sure that you’re communicating and preparing so that your anal sex experience is the best it can be for both parties involved. While it can be fun to try new things in your sex life, be sure that everyone involved is happy with the actions being done as well as what they are getting out of it.